If your usually engaged teenager has become cynical, perpetually tired, and withdrawn, it might not just be “teen angst.” These are classic warning signs of academic burnout, a serious state of exhaustion that requires parental attention. A clinical psychologist offers a guide for parents of older students on how to intervene effectively.
Meghna Kanwat, a clinical psychologist, points to fatigue, cynicism, and withdrawal as key indicators that a teenager is overwhelmed. The first step for parents is to approach their teen with empathy, not accusation. Validating their struggle by saying, “It seems like you’ve been under a lot of pressure lately,” can open the door to a productive conversation.
For these older students, Kanwat recommends a multi-pronged approach. One powerful strategy is to schedule ‘Non-Academic Days’. This gives teens explicit permission to disconnect from schoolwork, helping to break the cycle of chronic stress and allowing their minds and bodies to recover.
Parents should also focus on skill-building. “Encourage and teach self-regulation skills,” Kanwat advises. This can include simple mindfulness exercises, deep breathing, or journaling. These tools empower teens to manage their stress independently, a crucial skill for their future. Helping them reflect on their values can also provide a grounding sense of purpose beyond academics.
Finally, assess the environment. Is the pressure coming from home? Parents should examine their own expectations and ensure they are not inadvertently contributing to their teen’s stress. By combining empathy, strategic breaks, and skill-building, parents can help their teens navigate the intense pressures of secondary school without burning out.